Giving and receiving

We expect other human beings and other living species to be a source of some value to us every time we interact with them. This is the default way we have existed. This is how our minds usually work. Even when we are not aware of it.

Now think of a time when your mind was not working like this. Lets say you just recovered from an illness. Just came back from tough, painful moments to appreciate what is. You feel different, tearful happiness looking at people and animals. It is as if it is all a gift.

Now think of being at the other end of this person. Some times you come across such people, and you feel deep appreciation and openness towards them, almost sub-consciously. You feel awe. This person by-passed most other beliefs you had about the kind of person you want to interact with. You come totally in the moment. This is the interaction you were always looking for. In fact, you open up, the typical story of giving and receiving disappears for a moment.

Now consider for a moment the story of giving and receiving. You value receiving. Our minds work in interesting ways. One minor story title that you have held on to can write an entire story of behaviors and experiences. When you find yourself stuck in this story, and realize it is a confusing mess that does no good to anyone in the long run, you are already almost more than half awake. Soon like a balloon leaves the hand, the story leaves you. It happens. But awareness is a key step. Without it, you would be so deeply ingrained inside the story that it seems to be your universe.

So imagine that the story of giving and receiving lifts off your hand. Suddenly the world opens up. When you receive you will be grateful, and when you give you will feel like you are sharing. It becomes a world of sharing, not giving and receiving.

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